How Much is the Job of a Stay-At-Home-Mum (SAHM) Really Worth?

When you meet a stay-at-home parent, do not ask something along the lines of, “So, what do you do all day?”

It’s a tempting question, because you may be imagining them relaxing at home day in day out while you hustle out there in your office, but ask any corporate-warrior-turned-stay-at-home-parent and they’ll tell you that looking after children full-time is actually harder.

Being a stay-at-home parent is like being at work 24/7.

Keeping an eye on a living-breathing creature that has no fear and no survival instincts while trying to cook, clean and run errands without a break is more tiring than you can imagine.

If families could put a monetary value on the jobs that stay-at-home parents do, they would find that the economic value of what is being done is actually quite high.

Here are some jobs stay-at-home parents single-handedly do every day—not all of which can be outsourced to domestic helpers, well, at least not if you care about quality.

 

Housekeeper

With their spouses out working all day, sometimes till late at night, it usually falls to the stay-at-home parent to make sure all housekeeping duties are done.

This doesn’t just include doing the dishes and making sure that the beds are made but also sweeping and mopping the floor, doing the laundry (the troublesome part isn’t putting the clothes into the machine, but hanging several kilograms of dripping laundry out to dry, and then folding everything and putting it away into cupboards and drawers) and scrubbing toilets that have been soiled by people other than yourself.

Cost of a live-in domestic helper: A live-in maid can adequately take care of housekeeping tasks if properly trained, and will cost a minimum of $450 to $550 a month. The quality of the work really varies and depends on how closely the maid is supervised. To hire a part-time housekeeper, families are looking at paying $80 to $90 for 4-hour blocks.

 

Chef 

Stay-at-home parents are typically responsible for feeding themselves and the baby in the day, and also their spouses when they get home after work.

When there are family members involved, cooking takes on a whole new dimension. You might be fine with eating cereal for dinner, but don’t expect your family to do likewise. Stay-at-home parents who aren’t skilled at cooking can expect to devote at least 1.5 to 2 hours a day in the kitchen making at least two meals every day.

Cost of a cook: Again, cooking is something that can be outsourced to a live-in maid, but the quality varies wildly and in order for inexperienced maids to do a good job, they need to first be trained by their employers. This is a problem if the couple are not skilled cooks themselves. And once again, supervision is key, as corners are quite easily cut if the employers are never around. The alternative is to eat out every day, which will raise your overall food expenditure.

 

Childcare teacher

A stay-at-home parent who interacts with the child throughout the day isn’t just making sure the kid doesn’t get into trouble, but also playing the role of educator.

Parents read to their toddlers, let them watch movies, talk to them, tell them about the world and play games with them, and this contributes to their growth and development. For instance, an English-speaking parent who reads often to a child is likely to raise a kid with stronger language and reading skills than one whose child spends 90% of his time with a maid at home.

Cost of a childcare teacher: Infantcare and childcare in Singapore are not cheap, and parents should be expected to fork out anything from $300 to more than $2,000 a month, depending on the centre. There might also be concerns about quality and hygiene.

 

Chauffeur

Until your child is old enough to take public buses on his own, it usually falls to the stay-at-home parent to make sure he gets to school, CCAs, piano lessons, tuition, the playground and so on in one piece.

Those who are lucky enough to have a car might soon start feeling like a taxi driver as they wait outside their kid’s kindergarten or primary school hot afternoon after hot afternoon, watching the other parents and maids hover around the entrance.

Those who don’t have cars are left to squeeze on the MRT or brave public buses with a child in tow. They then have to travel home or run errands on public transport after dropping off the kid, continue with their housework for the day and then return in time to pick up Junior. Phew.

Cost of chauffeur services: Chauffeurs are expensive in Singapore and you’re looking at $50 per hour, which means the upwards of $2,000 a month. A cheaper alternative is to use a school bus service once your kid hits primary school age, but that still costs anywhere between $200 to $400.

Of course, once the kids are old enough, you can just shove an EZLink card in their hands and get them to take the bus or MRT on their own. It’s going to be some 10 years before that happens though.

 

Event planner

So your baby is finally one month old, and it’s time to throw his very first party surrounded by friends and family. If only one half of the couple is working full-time, it usually falls upon the stay-at-home parent to organise important events.

Over the years, there will be numerous events to organise, from kids’ and spouses’ birthday parties to family vacations and Chinese New Year/Hari Raya/Deepavali gatherings.

While this sounds like fun and games, it can be exhausting for a stay-at-home parent who already has his or her hands full, sometimes with baby vomit. Who’s got time to search for kid-friendly beach resorts and blow up balloons when the baby is chewing through the wires of the wifi router?

Cost of an event planner: An event planner is quite expensive to hire in Singapore. One event inclusive of styling, goodie bags, music and games can cost you around $565. And many parents tend to DIY if they don’t have the luxury of paying. Also, it’s hard to put a price tag on the labour of love that is organising activities that friends and families can share, no matter how simple.

 

These are just 5 major roles…

Those 5 roles alone are worth at least $3,900 a month, especially when we’re talking about staying home with young infants.

As it may be unreasonable to add average salaries of these 5 occupations together since a SAHM is one (super)human, let’s calculate how much a stay-at-home parent saves for the family.

Role	Cost
Housekeeper/Chef (In the form of a domestic helper)	$550
Infantcare	$770
Chauffeur service	$2,000
Ad-hoc event planning	$565
Total	$3,885

Of course, you can imagine that stay-at-home parents are often much, much more than just these 5 roles. There are occasions when they have to be counsellors, administrators, accountants and even public relations executives to your extended families.

Don’t forget that they don’t get annual leave, sick leave, performance bonus or AWS. Needless to say, stay-at-home-parents probably the most underpaid and overworked.

Are you a stay-at-home parent? Share the hardest part about being one in the comments!